Blaming as an Emotional Defence Mechanism 

Blaming as a form of emotional avoidance is often used to deflect taking responsibility for our emotional pain. When we blame someone, we are usually already feeling a high level of emotional pain or a situation arises that unsuspectingly triggers our emotional pain. In either case blaming someone or something else allows us to mask and deflect the attention away from our own emotional pain. Blaming gives us an external ‘bad guy’ to focus on who is solely responsible for the creating the emotional pain that we feel. As long as we have a bad guy to blame we can avoid taking responsibility for our role in co creating the emotional pain we are feeling on a deeper level.

If you would like to learn more about your emotional defence mechanisms and how to release emotional pain, come along to one of my workshops or book a one on one EFL session. 

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